Life Is Going to Life — and God Still Calls It A Win

Today I had a moment.

And it’s funny because God reminded me that I’m Clergy now. And he corrected me saying if so and so (who is a preacher) had done what you did you would be judging. And I would.

So maybe I’m getting a taste of my own medicine. Then I heard this message and I was fully irritated.

I believe in mind science to a degree. When I say mind science I mean calling those things that be not as though they were. But there’s a balance.

Yes, your thoughts and words matter. Yes, what you speak shapes your reality. But let me go ahead and bust a bubble—this idea that everything that happens to you is because of what you thought? That’s not always true. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Sometimes you are a victim to evil. That’s why 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says— “Pray without ceasing. On the surface, “pray without ceasing” sounds impossible. Who can literally pray 24/7? Nobody. But you should pray everyday. You can pray while driving, cooking, working, or even just by turning your thoughts toward Him.

Think of it like breathing: you don’t notice every inhale, but it sustains you. Prayer is spiritual breathing — sometimes it’s a long, intentional prayer, other times it’s a quick whisper: “Lord, help me,” “Thank You,” or even just a thought lifted up to Him.

So no, you don’t have to lock yourself in a prayer closet 24/7. Instead, it’s about never disconnecting from God — keeping the line open.

Romans 8:28 doesn’t say everything that happens is good — it says God can take everything (even evil, unfairness, pain, betrayal) and work it together for good.

This reminds us to know God’s sovereignty. He can takes what the enemy meant for harm and turn it into purpose. Otherwise, you can reframe it into something else. But it doesn’t mean you created it.

This is so our suffering doesn’t feel wasted; God will use it to build strength, character, and testimony. I know the things I’ve experienced made me more in love with him and revealed my passions.

In Acts 16, Paul and Silas were doing the Lord’s work — preaching the gospel, casting out a demon from a slave girl. But due to the culture they lived in instead of being celebrated, they were falsely accused, beaten, and thrown in prison. Now, let’s be clear: that wasn’t because they had “negative thoughts” or “manifested” prison. That was because of evil, jealous, money-hungry people who didn’t like their ministry.

And what did Paul and Silas do? They prayed. They sang hymns. They spoke that word. They put it in God’s hands. And at midnight, the prison doors flew open and their chains fell off.

Bad things do happen to good people. It’s not always your fault. Evil people sometimes plot against the righteous. And you know what? That’s not your fault. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise.

It’s not about denying the pain, but about trusting the outcome. In Paul and Silas story, not only were they set free, but the jailer and his whole household came to Christ because of that moment. What looked like defeat (unfair imprisonment) became a setup. They all became believers in the body of Christ. God repurposed it for salvation and freedom. God worked the bad for good.

We don’t live in this world by ourselves. If life was just me, my thoughts, and my little bubble, maybe. But no—we live around other people, and not all of them are led by God. Some are led by their flesh, their greed, or straight-up the devil. That’s not “your energy” attracting it. That’s called evil.

Jesus himself had to tell His disciples: You’re sheep. But there are wolves out here. He even told some people plainly: Your father is the devil. That shook me when I realized it. Because growing up in church, I thought everybody loved God. I thought when people did wrong, it was just by mistake. Whew—was I wrong. There are wicked people in this world, and some of them even stand in pulpits. That reality was a shocker, but a necessary one.

Sometimes, being a victim feels like you’re tied down by what happened to you. But Romans 8:28 and Acts 16 show us that God is the Master at untying knots we can’t undo ourselves. What looked like captivity is really the stage for deliverance.

Spiritually, “untying” is what God does for us too:

Untying lies the enemy tells us (“you’re stuck,” “you’re a victim forever”).
Untying generational patterns that keep us bound.
Untying fear and shame so we can walk free in purpose.

The beauty is: once He unties you, you don’t just walk free — your freedom becomes a testimony that helps untie others, just like the jailer’s family was saved.

So let me free somebody today:

It wasn’t your fault.
You didn’t create it.
You made the best decision you could with the information you had.

That doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.

Now here’s the truth: you can’t stay stuck in it. My grandfather once told me, “In this life, you are going to have trials and tribulations. You can’t get around that.” And he was right. Life is going to life. But you don’t have to let life keep you down.

You can change your situation. In the mist of having your moments. You can heal. You can grow. You can put things in God’s hands and trust Him to carry you through.

And yes, speak the Word. Pray. Fast. Declare. But also be realistic: sometimes you’ll have days when you lose your cool, throw a temper tantrum, and cry out to God because you just don’t understand. Guess what? That’s okay. None of us are Jesus. We’re not perfect. We’re human.

So stop making excuses for evil. Call it what it is. Don’t carry blame that doesn’t belong to you. And don’t let anybody gaslight you into believing your trauma is your own manifestation. No ma’am, no sir.