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It’s so easy to get caught up in what people think or say.
They’ll have you believing you missed out. That you’re behind. That they’re winning and you’re not. Some folks even play mind games to make it seem like they stole something from you—your job, your man, your moment.
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But here’s what I’ve learned: it’s not really about them. It’s about what you are telling yourself. The real narrative is happening inside your mind, not theirs.
Let’s take something real for example. A woman gets left by her husband for another woman. The pain is sharp, the betrayal cuts deep. She starts believing she lost something valuable. That the other woman “won.”
But here’s the truth—if she’s being completely honest with herself, he wasn’t a good man. And let’s be clear: no woman with a backbone, standards, and spiritual discernment is letting a truly good man just walk away.
But because she believes something was stolen, it becomes a source of pain… and worse, victimhood. Sis, listen—God did you a favor.
I’ve seen it in my own life.
There was a company I desperately wanted to work for. I applied, networked, prayed… nothing. Rejection after rejection. At the time, it stung. I felt overlooked and underestimated.
But fast forward some time (okay, not centuries, but it felt like it), and out of the blue, a recruiter reached out with an opportunity at that same company. I politely declined. She called me back and made arrangements anyway. I took the job—and it turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life.
Here’s what changed: I stopped chasing and started trusting God's word.
What I know now is that God writes my story. Every “no” is a sovereign act of love. Every delay is divine protection. Every door that closes is covering you with grace.
So, no—I don’t chase anymore. Not people. Not jobs. Not friendships. Not opportunities. I move with passed that with wisdom of course.
When something is a consistent no, I proceed with caution. Because if it’s mine, it’ll be mine. If it belongs in my life, God will align it. I don’t have to beg or perform or convince anyone of my worth.
The bible says in Hebrews 4:16 (KJV):
"Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need."
And if God says “no”? Baby, I don’t question it anymore. I pause, I breathe, I thank Him—and I move on.
Romans 8:28 (KJV):
"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."
The truth is, you’re never really being rejected. You’re being redirected.
And in this life, I’d rather be redirected by God than celebrated by people for something that was never meant for me.
Let’s get something straight.
I'm done entertaining the ordinary. I know who I am and whose I am. No confusion. No compromise.
I’ve chosen to stop feeding the antics. That show? Canceled. If you're still stuck in season one, catch up. We’re in season three—or five—where character development is required. Elevation demands evolution.
And for those who love to act, but can't bust the glass ceiling open: if the enemy can’t speak clearly or say it with his chest, he’s a coward. And cowards don’t get access to queens.
The Word says, in Hebrews 4:16 (NIV):
"Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
So if you can’t approach with clarity, confidence, or conviction—you don’t belong in the throne room. Period.
From now on, we’re not giving energy to half-stepped suggestions, veiled shade, or playground behavior. As Beyoncé said—if you can’t say names to our face, stay in recess. This is grown, God-led business.
And no more free lunch.
If you want access, come with dollars, not cents.
Minimum: twenties only.
So let them talk. Let them brag. Let them think they “got away” with something.
You? Just remember: God is still writing. And your story? It’s already a masterpiece.
