Now You Understand Why Sarah Called Her Husband Lord

For years, I read the scripture where Sarah called Abraham lord and quietly bristled. Because I didn’t understand and felt she was making him her god. 

But now that I understand covenant authority.

“Just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord…” — 1 Peter 3:6

 

This was never about inferiority or even his current condition or alignment.

Sarah wasn’t shrinking herself. She was standing inside a divine principal... 

Calling her Abraham up in a way that would expanded his life. 

She understood strategy. Something modern women are rarely taught and don't know how to give. When a man is rightly positioned under God, honoring him doesn’t diminish a woman—it covers him.

Calling Abraham lord wasn’t for flattery or out of fear. It was, Sarah's way of helping him to recognized the weight he carried, the responsibility on his shoulders, and the assignment God had entrusted to him. 

She honored the office, to raise the man.

That's why when Jesus speaks of fasting, He does not frame it as discipline first — He frames it as relationship.

When Jesus said “Who touched Me?”, it comes from this moment:

The Scripture

“And Jesus said, Who touched me? When all denied, Peter and they that were with him said, Master, the multitude throng thee and press thee, and sayest thou, Who touched me?
And Jesus said, Somebody hath touched me: for I perceive that virtue is gone out of me.”
— Luke 8:45–46 (KJV)

He calls Himself the Bridegroom.

In ancient covenant culture, when the bridegroom was present, the atmosphere was celebration, provision, protection, and delight. 

The bride did not fast because she was in the presence of her husband. She was fed, covered, and cherished. Fasting would have been inappropriate because it would signal lack, 

And lack does not exist where the covenant head is present. Who wants to state lack in the presence of their husband.

Jesus is teaching that fasting is not for earning love — it is for those who long for God when His presence is withdrawn from them.

Wife Wisdom: Know the Season

A wise bride understands timing.

When the Bridegroom feels distant → Fast

Fasting is not punishment. It is desire intensified. It is the language of a bride saying, “I miss You.”

The Pharisees fasted out of duty.

John’s disciples fasted out of transition.
Jesus’ disciples rested out of covenant security.

A wife does not starve herself to prove loyalty while her husband is at the table. You don't need all night prayer when you are talking to God.

This is why fasting without intimacy becomes religious anorexia — thin in power, empty in love.

Fasting is not a lifestyle of deprivation.

A woman grounded in covenant:

Knows when to pray

Jesus is restoring us back to biblical intelligence, not religious exhaustion.

She's A Wonder To My Soul.

Final Decree

You do not fast to become His bride. You are already one with God.

My father taught me to think. That "I AM" who and what I think. I can sit and listen to him for hours.What I admire most about my father is that he always makes sure his wife is the most beautiful woman in the room—even if he considers himself plain. He taught me never to settle for a D-list Pharaoh who wants more shine than his queen. That ain't royalty. Church on Wednesday

He impressed upon me that our universe begins in the mind—everything starts as a thought before it ever becomes a reality. 

He taught me that naming matters. Once, when I called someone my “best friend,” he paused and asked me, “Is that really your best?” That question changed everything. I released that relationship, and God became my best friend.

He taught me patience with myself. Our relationship was not perfect—far from it. He did things that wounded me. He was honest about that too. He would often say that people assumed the spiritual children had it easy. 

And he was determined that I would never have that story. And trust me—I don’t.

There was a season when I was so angry with him. I blocked him. 

Truly angry. But even in that, he taught me something unshakable: God shows up. 

People, fear, comfort, or images will come to test your faith, but God... 

And my father is a man of integrity. He always kept his word to me. If he said it he does it. He taught me that keeping your word is extremely important. 

I don't always listen to him, there are times when I just knew though... Follow his instructions.... 

When he speaks, it carries weight.

He also taught me not to face fear. Don't you dear hide or be afraid to say what you want or who you are. Now there's a balance, of course.

When I wanted to avoid hard truths or difficult confrontations, he made me face them. Not to break me—but to build me.

That is apart of the reason why, The Sacred Desk, was created but also shifting. 

We are no longer entertaining illusions or what's comfortable. This is a place for thinking, holy courage, truths of the mature, and co-creating with God. 

The Sacred Desk is where wisdom resides, faith meets manifestation, where thought becomes alignment, and where you learn to stand—unbowed.

Our boardroom isn’t defined by glass walls or polished tables—it’s defined by prayer, purpose, and divine alignment. 

Leadership here is not just about hitting metrics or executing plans; it’s about co-creating with God, partnering with the ultimate CEO to bring vision to life.

Co-creation is active. It’s not simply asking God to bless what you’ve already decided—it’s inviting Him into every plan, every step, and every decision. 

As Proverbs 16:3 reminds us: “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”

1. Vision Alignment

The Sacred Desk: Define the vision with God, not just yourself. Your goals should align with eternal significance, not just personal or business gain.

Bezos: “Customer Obsession” & “Think Big” — Bezos emphasizes long-term vision and obsessing over the customer. Leaders must envision bold futures and work relentlessly toward them.

Comparison: Both stress clarity of purpose and thinking beyond the short-term. The difference is the source of guidance—Bezos relies on market data and customer focus, while co-creation relies on divine guidance paired with human initiative.

2. Leveraging Gifts / Talent

The Sacred Desk: Use your God-given gifts in partnership with His guidance. Steward your unique abilities to honor the vision.

Bezos: “Hire and Develop the Best” & “Insist on the Highest Standards” — Bezos invests in talent and expects people to operate at their highest potential.

Comparison: Both recognize the value of human talent. Co-creation adds the spiritual dimension: it’s not just about skills, but about aligning those skills with a higher purpose.

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3. Listening and Learning

The Sacred Desk: Practice disciplined listening—quiet reflection to hear God’s direction and adjust plans as necessary.

Bezos: “Learn and Be Curious” & “Have Backbone; Disagree and Commit” — Bezos values curiosity, debate, and learning from multiple sources before making decisions.

Comparison: Both emphasize listening and adjusting, but co-creation focuses on spiritual discernment, whereas Bezos focuses on intellectual and analytical input.

4. Execution with Flexibility

The Sacred Desk: Execute plans faithfully but remain flexible; setbacks may be part of God’s plan.

Bezos: “Bias for Action” & “Dive Deep” — Bezos promotes rapid execution and digging into the details. Failure is part of the innovation cycle, and learning quickly is key.

Comparison: Both value action and adjustment. Co-creation emphasizes trust in God’s timing and alignment over personal control, while Bezos emphasizes rapid iteration and ownership.

5. Celebrate Wins / Gratitude

The Sacred Desk: Celebrate progress, giving thanks for divine guidance and acknowledging every step forward.

Bezos: “Deliver Results” & “Frugality” — Bezos focuses more on results than celebration; metrics and outcomes drive recognition.

Comparison: Co-creation adds a reflective, spiritual layer to leadership: success isn’t just measured by KPIs but by alignment with God’s purpose. Bezos celebrates impact but in purely operational terms.

6. Ultimate Takeaway

The Sacred Desk: Leadership is a partnership with God—combining strategy, faith, and obedience. Legacy is eternal, and influence is multiplied through alignment with divine purpose.

Bezos: Leadership is about relentless focus, customer obsession, and innovation. Legacy is built through scale, operational excellence, and culture.

Synthesis: Co-creation leadership and Bezos-style leadership share principles of vision, talent, learning, execution, and accountability—but co-creation adds a spiritual axis. In other words: Bezos builds empires; co-creation builds both impact and eternal significance.

Celebrate Wins, Big and Small

Success isn’t measured only in outcomes—it’s measured in alignment, obedience, and impact. 

Every breakthrough, restored relationship, or idea that bears fruit is worthy of gratitude. Celebrating keeps hearts humble, spirits aligned, and momentum flowing.

Scripture Reference: “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.” — Ephesians 3:20

When God said in Genesis 2:18, “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a help meet for him,” He was not describing a maid, a doormat, or a woman with no voice.

The word “help meet” has been misinterpreted for centuries, watered down, weaponized, and used to diminish the very women God created to carry wisdom, strategy, influence, and spiritual insight. But when we look at the original meaning, the picture is completely different — and far more powerful.

Let’s break this down the right way — Hebraically, biblically, spiritually, and with a whole lot of clarity.

The Original Text: Ezer Kenegdo

Genesis 2:18 says:

“It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.”

But the Hebrew phrase there is ezer kenegdo — which does not mean servant.
It doesn’t mean runner-up.
It doesn’t mean downgraded sidekick in a dusty apron.

Ezer = Divine Help

The word ezer is used 21 times in the Old Testament…
And almost every time, it refers to God Himself coming through with supernatural, military-strength help.

So when God called woman an ezer, He wasn’t calling her a maid… 

He was calling her a warrior-level, God-backed, destiny-shaping force of help.

Kenegdo = Equal, Facing Him

This doesn’t mean behind him.
This doesn’t mean under him.
This doesn’t mean trailing behind like a lost child.

It means equal strength, face-to-face, one who stands opposite and complements, bringing what he does not have.

The Misuse of the Word Has Harmed Women

Modern culture — especially some churches — turned “help meet” into:

• silent

• submissive without voice

• overworked

• under-honored

• emotionally drained

• spiritually muted

But God never called women to shrink so a man could feel bigger.  He formed her to enhance, amplify, complete, and bring divine strategy to the table.

A real help meet doesn’t lose herself to support a man.
She brings her full self, her full power, her full anointing — and the right man welcomes it.

A Help Meet Carries Authority in the Realm of the Spirit

Every marriage has two realms:

• What happens naturally

• What’s happening spiritually

There comes a moment in every woman’s life—especially a woman walking in purpose—when God stops whispering and starts repeating Himself. And when He does? Baby, that’s your sign to stop thinking about the vision and finally write it down.

Habakkuk said it best: “Write the vision and make it plain, that they that read it may run with it.”

But here’s the truth: a vision that stays in your head will die in your head. A vision written is a vision authorized.

1. Writing the Vision Is a Covenant

When you put ink to paper, heaven puts power behind it.
You’re not just journaling. You’re drafting alignment.
You’re telling God, “I see what You see, and I’m ready to partner with You.”

The enemy LOVES a woman with no written vision—because confusion is his playground.
But clarity? Oh, that threatens hell.

2. Make It Plain — Not Pretty

Some people get stuck because they want their vision to look aesthetic, poetic, Instagram-worthy.

No ma’am.

God didn’t say make it cute.
He said make it plain.

Plain means direct.
Plain means structured.
Plain means “Even if I was tired, overwhelmed, or distracted, I’d still understand what I wrote.”

Write what you mean.
Write what you need.
Write what you know God said.

3. So That Whoever Reads It May RUN

Clarity creates movement—not just for you, but for everybody assigned to your destiny.

When your vision is clear:

• Helpers can find you

• Resources can locate you

• Opportunities can recognize you

• The RIGHT people can align with you

  
  

  
  
  
  

A written vision becomes a magnet.

If you’ve ever felt stagnant, overlooked, or unsupported… check your clarity.
People cannot run with what you refuse to make plain.

4. Vision Brings Order to Your Life

A woman with a written vision stops entertaining confusion—whether in relationships, career, calling, or community.

Vision becomes your filter:

• “Does this align with where God is taking me?”

• “Does this person match my future?”

• “Is this choice in agreement with my assignment?”

When the vision is plain, the decisions become simple.

5. This Is Your Sign to Stop Delaying

Write it.
Write the business plan.
Write the prayer.
Write the goals.
Write the boundaries.
Write the instructions God whispered at 2 a.m.
Write the prophecy over your life.

Make it plain.
Make it visible.
Make it non-negotiable.

Your future self is waiting for the receipts.