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Now listen, Brian Carn, in the situation with Prophetess Tiphani and Matthew Stevenson, wasn’t wrong. Let’s start there. As a pastor, he was simply doing what pastors do: speaking to protocol. The man was trying to remind folks there’s order in the house of God.
Not every “thus saith the Lord” moment is meant to be public. The word of the Lord appeared a bit chaotic and out of pocket. Sometimes God does move differently, yes. But sometimes is not the standard. He's just reminding us what God's standard is.
What Brian was doing was stepping into his role as an elder—a voice of wisdom, of structure, of "sit down somewhere and do it decently and in order." And baby, we need that in this generation. We’ve got prophets in crop tops and Instagram apostles laying hands through DMs. Somebody has to bring balance.
It’s like when your parent gets sick and you suddenly have to act like their parent, but the minute they’re back to normal, they’re quick to remind you: “I’m still your mama.” Protocol. Roles. Order. That’s all Brian was saying.
But whewwww—then came the flashback. Not a backlash, a whole flashback.
A young woman came out and said her and Brian are married. Not “we’re dating.” Not “we’re talking.” MARRIED. Apparently, he told her that in a text. I didn’t read the text myself (I try to mind my business, emphasis on try), but that’s what she said.
Now, I can’t even say I’m surprised—because word on the churchy curb is that Brian got that good anointed peen.
Yes, saints and ain’ts, the streets been talking. A few years back, a whole husband came forward claiming Brian was dating his wife. This man said Prophet Brian didn’t just charm her—he beguiled her.
That’s right. He hit her with the sanctified seduction package. Said she got loved so good she forgot she had a house with a whole husband in it.
Sir?? Prophet Carn??
But what exactly are you over there doing?!
I believe you can prophesy… but apparently, you can also prophesize with your pelvis. And honestly, I’m scared. Spiritually and emotionally.
She’s been going through it because he's not honoring his vows, and I can imagine the pain. I mean… if this is true, Brian might need to stop looking for a wife and just log into that same phone and respond to the one he allegedly already has.
Now here’s where I step in with my Southern fried Bible opinion:
There is no such thing as spiritual marriage. I never read anywhere in Scripture that marriage only required a legal certificate.
In biblical times, a betrothal (or espousal) was much more serious than modern-day engagement. It was a legally binding contract. The couple had not yet consummated the marriage, but to break off a betrothal required a formal divorce. So, although Mary and Joseph weren’t living together yet, they were considered husband and wife in a legal sense.
A verbal agreement or vow before witnesses could seal the deal. Marriage wasn’t about the state issuing a license—it was about covenant, community acknowledgment, and spiritual intention. Families were typically involved in the arrangement. Once everything was agreed upon, it was recognized by the community. If a couple had sex during the betrothal period, that could be seen as finalizing the marriage (hence why Joseph thought about divorcing Mary when she was found pregnant).
So yes, marriage was more about covenant and commitment than paperwork. That's why in biblical eyes, if a man said “you are my wife,” and the woman agreed and the relationship was consummated, that was a marriage—before God and community.
In many cases, consummation was the final and ultimate confirmation that a marriage was complete. This is why in Genesis 2:24 it says, “and the two shall become one flesh.”
Yes, I believe in legal marriages, don’t twist my words—but biblically, covenant came first. If a man told a woman she was his wife, and she agreed, and they made a vow before God… baby, that’s a marriage in God’s eyes.
So, if this woman was indeed told, “You are my wife,” and she received it, and she’s been living like that, then sir… you are married. Period. Full stop. Put the mic down and go handle your vows.
Unless… and here’s the twist… he’s already married to someone else. In that case: sis, respectfully, return to sender.
That man is not your husband. He belongs to another woman and God is not the author of that confusion. Slide out with your dignity and ask the Lord to send your man, not someone else’s.
Also: nobody should be dating anyone for 10 years. I said what I said.
That’s not dating. That’s a decade-long hostage situation. No man of God should be in a 10-year situationship.
It's ungodly. It's emotionally unhealthy. It's giving "confused and wasting your youth." And if Brian did that, I hope it’s not true because… Disgusting.
But if he didn’t—cool, the man is free to marry whoever he wants. Let the prophet pick his prophetess.
But here’s a deeper issue we need to talk about—and yes, I’m talking to Black men and our culture specifically:
We don’t teach our sons how to be husbands. We let them run wild, glorify the “player” phase, and then magically expect them to transform into faithful, emotionally available men when they turn 30.
Marriage is rarely encouraged for Black men unless it’s a "clean up your image" strategy. And we wonder why monogamy feels like a foreign language.
Men are often treated like they’re helpless when it comes to sexual discipline, as if they’re wired to say yes to anything in a skirt. But let’s be clear: if you can’t control your sexual urges, something is spiritually off. You don’t need excuses—you need discipline, deliverance, and prayer.
Meanwhile, a lot of women are turn their heads during dating just to keep the man—no expectations, no standards, no boundaries. Sis, dating is the time to invoke your expectations, not to downplay them. If you want commitment, say it. If you want monogamy, expect it. Don’t whisper "I want to be a wife" in your prayers but stay silent in the relationship.
So here’s my final question:
Did this woman set an expectation of monogamy? Not that his alleged cheating would be her fault—absolutely not—but did she establish the standard? Did she let him know she wasn’t here to play house for a decade?
Let’s be honest. Sometimes the confusion comes from unspoken agreements.
Moral of the story:
Brian Carn wasn’t wrong about protocol. But if he told a woman she was his wife… then it’s time to follow protocol on that, too. Because prophets need order in both the pulpit and the private life. Amen!
